One of my friends has a theory about why weight loss is so hard for women. I think it applies to my blogging. It's because we tend to be perfectionists. All or nothing. We beat ourselves up if we make a mistake. We say mean things to ourselves and sometimes punish ourselves by repeating the undesired behavior. If we can't be perfect at what we are doing we don't do it. Men on the other hand are okay not being quite so perfect. They make a mistake they shrug their shoulders and get over it, then start again the next day. I think she's really onto something. I was looking at my blog just like I look at weight. All or nothing. Even though I enjoy it if I didn't have time to devote myself entirely I didn't do it and even if I did have time, I didn't have any time to catch up with everything I wanted to blog about so again, I didn't do it. Those days are over. School is out, math classes are done. I don't start a new class until August so I have some free time. This demands that I also need to set some parameters so that I don't become overly obsessed -- The other side of the all or nothing spectrum. If I'm in I'm really in so, since I have a little more free time this month I have decided I can only check my blog/email/facebook page twice a day. Once in the morning and once in the evening. I will not become addicted to any games -- flibricks, gems, dots, solitaire, word scrapper, or any other that tend to suck all of my time and exacerbate my self-diagnosed carpal tunnel syndro
me. I can only spend an hour a week on iTunes. I must speak to one human being every day. I must leave the house at least once every day. For now these are the rules I must abide by. I usually make some sort of television viewing rule, but I am so backed up on all my shows that it hasn't been a problem as of yet. I might need a few days of intense viewing to catch up -- next time it rains.
Speaking of rain Amie and I saw the most AMAZING double rainbow coming out of the movies this weekend. It was a full arch and the light was hitting it so
you could see the full spectrum of color. I tried to get a picture of the entire arch but my lense wasn't wide enough. It really was beautiful.
Glad to have you back, my dear. I admire your rules. Is the Bachelorette one of your shows? 'Cause we need to discuss. And I totally just posted a pic of that same rainbow on my blog, too. That thing was amazing.
ReplyDeleteI am usually a sucker for every reality show there is but I haven't been able to get into the Bachelorette. I did watch the entire season of The Bachelor an Officer and a Gentleman. Andy was breathtaking and those dimples. I agree the rainbow was so cool. I hear Kiley got a picture of it over the temple. If we both gang up on her maybe we can get her to post it on her blog.
ReplyDeleteWelcome back to the blogging world friend! I have missed you!
ReplyDelete"One of my friends has a theory about why weight loss is so hard for women. I think it applies to my blogging. It's because we tend to be perfectionists. All or nothing. We beat ourselves up if we make a mistake. We say mean things to ourselves and sometimes punish ourselves by repeating the undesired behavior."
ReplyDeleteWow... this is SO TRUE!!!
I totally agree about the "all or nothing theory." I definately do that.
ReplyDeleteI got some pics of that rainbow coming out of the temple open house... I just blogged about it! I'm trying to catch up on blogging a little, too.
Thanks for your insights about VT. I, too, think the drop-by-when-they-know-you're-not-home is a cop-out, too and does nothing to make someone feel you care more about them than the numbers.
Woo-hoo! Melissa is back! You have the BEST blog posts!
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